The glossary of modern dating
Words that define the collective atrocities
of dating online and IRL.
The act of keeping a potential love interest "on the bench" by texting them and liking their social media posts, but never actually meeting up.
A "robot" or fictitious account made to look like a real person on a dating app. Easily identifiable by their way-too-perfect photos.
This dating term gets its name from Casper, the friendly ghost. When Caspering, you let someone down gently instead of ghosting, saying something like, "I had a great time, but didn't really feel a spark."
"Cockfishing" is catfishing... but with a penis. People who "cockfish" send fake dick pics — they might be taken from online images, they might be photos of a former flame, they might be photoshopped, or they might even be simply photographed at a deceptive angle.
The time of year when it's cold outside and you want to start a new relationship so you have someone to snuggle.
A date that feels more like a job interview.
When you scroll through your crush's (or potential date's) social media profiles and like very, very old photos, either intentionally or accidentally. A deep like risks letting someone know that you're not only interested in them but that you also spent time researching them.
An acronym for "define the relationship," a reference to that important talk when two people decide how to label what's going on between them.
Fielding season is the time before cuffing season, when you're fielding your different options for a cold-weather relationship. Typically, this takes place during the summer and early fall.
The unfortunate person who prepares people for actual relationships, but doesn’t end up in a relationship him/herself.
When you suddenly disappear from someone you’ve been on a few dates with by not responding in hopes that they will get the hint.
A specific form of catfishing in which a user, in an effort to hide their hair — or lack thereof — wears a hat in every picture on their online profile.
When someone ghosts or breaks up with you... but keeps watching your Instagram Stories or follows you on social media to deliberately remind you that they exist.
When you present yourself on a dating app in an unrealistically positive way. This could be as simple as using outdated photos or excessive filters to portraying a different lifestyle than the one you hold. Not as blatant as its sister-term catfishing where you completely misrepresent yourself.
Going back to an ex. Especially common during COVID-19.
Someone will use this technique when they have no one in particular they want to date. They just want to flirt and see how folks respond. Essentially it's about hitting on everyone you see without exception and hope you "hit" something.
When you’re kinda dating someone but you aren't in a relationship and you're constantly unsure of your situation.
When you gradually slow down communication with someone you’ve been seeing eventually ending in not talking to them again.
Submarining, a newly named trend, begins when someone with whom you have romantic involvement, ghosts — or disappears from your life without notice — only to resurface, with no apology and acts as if no time had passed.
Entering into a never ending texting conversation with someone you meet online and never actually meeting them in real life.
When someone senses that a relationship is on the rocks, and starts to circle their prey – in order to date them or even just sleep with them.
Zombieing happens when an ex, or someone who previously ghosted you, pops up in your life again — usually in the form of a social media interaction.
When someone hits you up late night for a virtual hookup via zoom.
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These dating terms have been sourced from a variety of places around the internet. Here's a list of where we've found ones we didn't write ourselves.
NPR - The Lingo Of Online Dating
DATE/ABLE - Top 20 Dating Terms you need to know now
Refinery29 - From Kittenfishing To Zombieing: The Dating Terms You Need To Know
The Guardian - Ghosting, Caspering and six new dating terms you've never heard of